In truth, this is a post that has been sitting in my Drafts folder for over a YEAR. But once I reread the story, (and in light of our ANNIVERSARY YESTERDAY!!) I knew I needed to share again, because it is as true now as it was then.
“You wash, I’ll dry.” four simple words (courtesy of the ever-fabulous, Justin and Mary Marantz) have been the definition of my ideal relationship since I first heard them. In fact, they’ve been in my head so long, I can’t even remember the first time I heard them, but they were the words Justin and Mary used to describe their partnership, their marriage, and their business. They were partners in everything, from the big stuff right down to the smallest thing…like doing the dishes.
For years, I played those words in my head, longing for that kind of a relationship. Those who have known me a while know that that is not the kind of relationship I had in the past. I would try to squish, squeeze, and downright shove my situation to fit into that mold, but it never quite looked the way that the picture did in my head. It never quite fit.
I feel that I should mention here that I despise dirty dishes, and I hate the chore of having to do the dishes.
A few weeks ago, one morning as David was heading out the door to work, there were dirty dishes in the sink. He looked at the clock, looked at me, put down his breakfast burrito and said, “If you dry, I’ll wash.” At the time, the words didn’t even sink in! The words that I had held on to for so long slipped right by me as I grabbed my favorite dish towel (a white one, embroidered with “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” given to me by my best friend Alissa 🙂 ) and scurried to my place next to him at the sink so I could help him with this teeny task before he left for work for the day.
We finished the few dishes that were in the sink, he went off to work, and it wasn’t until two or three days later that the words really sunk in. If you dry, I’ll wash. Five simple words. Words that I dreamed over for years, and here they were.
Moral of the story – wait for the person God has made for you. Because once things fall into place the way that only God can make them, the fit is so perfect you don’t even know you’re in it.
All photo credit to Nicki Ahrens Photography
Stay tuned, I’ll be sharing even more from our fabulous wedding day tomorrow!!